It’s half way through September so probably time I posted my August response; I’m not going to proof-read this, take it as it is.
1. Have a chat with a family member: I was actually going to make an effort to visit an aunty or uncle but instead I FaceTimed with my sister, who as of 30th August 2014, I have not seen in person for a year because she lives in America. I remember when I said goodbye to her at the airport I was a little bit shitty because she had three people at the airport to see her off on a five-week holiday, whereas when I go overseas, I drive myself, alone, put my car in airport parking, etc. And I thought, hell, you’ll see her in a month. I wasn’t unpleasant. Anyway, she didn’t come back, she got married instead. So we FaceTimed for probably the fourth time ever. It was good, funny, like old times. She’s very much Made for America. I don’t know if that’s a good thing or not. I mentioned I would be coming to the US for about five weeks and we discussed when would be the best time, pending weather and university. It still feels like she came over to my place just last week.
2. Think of one thing that you and your worst enemy have in common: We work at the same place and like to wear reddy orange nail polish.
3. Think of one person who really loves to see you. Why? My Mum. Because I’m a dag and it makes her laugh.
4. Thank someone and tell them what they mean to you: My housemate. I did his washing and put it away. He thanked me, and pointed out that I do a lot for him. I told him it was because he is special, means a lot to me, and that I can rely on him like no one ever before.
5. (big one) think of a person or people who you just don’t get. They make you shake your head when they speak: My supervisor at work.
6. Write a list of the stuff you don’t understand about them (how can they possibly say/believe that?!) She’s a dinosaur. Always puts up roadblocks (“the problem with that is…”), she thinks computers “just don’t like it” when you try to do something with them and it doesn’t work. Answers most questions with “I don’t know… I don’t know. Nah I dunno.” So resistant to change.
7. Now it’s time to stretch yourself – put yourself in their shoes, block out any thoughts that contradict the view, and feel what it’s like to think as they do. Don’t be scared, you can go back to being you and thinking your way in a sec, but for a bit, imagine what it’s like to be them. Try to find the reasons they have for thinking the way they do: I get it. I guess I know why. They don’t have that technical, logical mind. We’re from a different generation; she didn’t grow up with the technology I have.
8. Authority – what persons in authority do you have respect for? Why? Police. It’s a tough job, and they’re here to protect us and make us feel safe. The majority of them are good eggs, and I believe they get into the job for genuinely good reasons, like making the country a better place.
9. Authority – what persons in authority do you feel disdain for? Why? Like most, politicians. I don’t feel that they have our best interests at heart – maybe they do a little bit, but they’re mostly working for themselves, and THEN their people; we’re not a first priority.
10. What areas of your life do you have a position of authority/leadership/responsibility? Who do you authorise/lead? Is it hard or easy? I have leadership and responsibility at work, despite not being the team leader. It’s easy because they almost LET me do it because no one else is doing a very good job. It’s also difficult because I don’t really get along with or have a good, positive relationship with anyone in my team.
11. Is there such a thing as a totally evil person? Is there such a thing as an unredeemable person? Yes and yes. I think we’re talking psychopaths, criminals, etc. I’ve been doing a lot of reading on psychopaths and murderers lately. It is a topic that interests me, what is inside their heads. There are some people who are unredeemable. They don’t want to be redeemed, and that’s fine, however, I believe they need to be somewhere where they cannot hurt anyone or anything… which is basically dead.
14. Is there a culture or group of people that you don’t know much about? Time to get onto google! I am always doing this. Just last week I googled… ISIS. And then I was paranoid the cops would descend on my house. Okay, no. But I read about them, who they are, etc. On Wikipedia. Hmm, maybe not reliable. But I got the general idea.
16. Find a spot in public where lots of people pass by. Sit and watch them. Imagine what they are thinking. I do this all the time. I also wonder what their ‘story’ is, or what hardships they’re going through – especially if they have a negative expression.
19. What category of people do you have trouble interacting with – children, the elderly, men, women, big scary bikers, women with children, super-smart people who use big words? Find one and talk to them. Children scare me. They seem to like me but I struggle to interact with them. They probably don’t notice though, but I just feel awkward because it feels like acting or lying, and I’m not good at either.
20. Make small talk with the check out chick. I avoid going to supermarkets that don’t have self checkout. I know it’s bad but most days, if I can avoid unnecessary small talk, I do. I’m moody.
22. Do you believe that society can be harmonious if people are very diverse in their belief systems? Why? I’d love to hear your answers to this question. No. These very diverse belief systems are sometimes going to have strong opposing views, and some people will just refuse to compromise, because that might be interpreted as meaning they’re not as committed to their beliefs if they allow that to happen.
25. Are there people you believe should be eradicated, or do not deserve to live? The obvious answer is pedophiles, rapists. Beyond that, no.
29. War. What is the cause? Greed? Hatred? Lack of empathy? Do you have feelings that, if you were a world leader, could lead you towards war? Greed, power and control. I don’t think any of my feelings could lead towards war if I were in the right ‘job’. I’d be more likely to want to talk to leaders (country and radical group leaders), ask them why they feel that way, ask them what happened in their childhood, counsel them, probably leave them raw and broken. I try to find the REAL person behind all the bravado.